Transitions from 0-1. 1-2, 2-3 kids

This is a question I get asked A LOT as a mama to 3 (once 4 and under). For us personally the transition from 1 to 2 was the hardest. Often I hear people say 0 to one being the hardest. I was READY to be a mom, i was meant to be a mom, like its something I dreamt of as a kid. I was married and 27 and my husband and I were ready to sacrifice and change our lives to revolve around kids. I think a lot of people if not fully ready find this transition hard because you go from being your own person to someone completely different. Before kids I was selfish, I would shower or get ready or sleep whenever I wanted. with kids you really have to adjust, even with just one.

When we had only one baby my husband and I could get "breaks" if one has the baby the other was free. We could go anywhere with one baby. We were two against one.

We even travelled on a 10 hour flight to Hawaii with a 12 month old. (more on travelling with kids in other posts.) When we became a family of 4 we were now split one to one. Gone were any chnace at a break. My husband was mostly one to one with the toddler (18 months at the time) so that I could take care of the baby. Our hands were now always full. We were needed all of a sudden needed 24/7. The mom guilt that comes with having more than one and dividing your time is real.

Along came baby number 3... We felt like we were already juggling two balls and they just added a third. Life was chaos (the good kind) and she just entered that chaos. She was forced to roll with the punches and be easy going. It's not like I had any time to myself or was sleeping soundly at night, so I wasn't too challenged when she came along. That being said, my third got different parents. She got confident and less stressed ones. We just kind of "knew" what we were doing and were much less stressed about certain things. They will all eventually sleep, and stop soother and bottles and pooping their pants. Its all just a season. And we embraced it. The only big challenge was that we were now outnumbered by our kids. But we learnt to divide and conquer in different ways.

Very grateful to have a partner in all of this and if you are a single parent ready this, you are a hero.